How To Sacrifice Your Lover: Love Compels us to Run — 2025 Extended Edition Released
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Ride the emotional, twisting, tornado that is Yuki and Inari’s love for each other in the 2025 Extended Edition of How To Sacrifice Your Lover, now available on Amazon exclusively in paperback. Ada Loveless’s masterpiece novel will drag you in deeper than ever before with over 30 additional pages of content. With a new foreword, an extended epilogue, an extended “Chapter 0”, countless other deeper dives into the psychology of minor characters, and extended descriptions of magic moments, the story is deeper than ever. Experience what it is like to be deep in the head of obsession… the plotting, scheming, outright emotional chaos, and at times, utter cringe.
How to Sacrifice Your Lover is a true tale, psychodrama, goth, romance novel, full of passion and brutal honesty. Written originally in 90 days of 2011, then obsessively revised nearly 1000 times over, Ada Loveless continued revising and revising until “nothing else could possibly be said”.
The 2025 Edition drops over 3 years after the initial release and is just as obsessive as the original, but also more balanced and fair.
“I wanted the 2025 Edition to reflect 3 additional years of healing from CPTSD,” Loveless said in a private interview, “unfortunately, CPTSD isn’t really something you heal from, but something you learn to live with. The book was initially a product of poor mental health, something I wasn’t really proud of at the time, and I really didn’t want anyone to read it. So this revision is about healing, but also, letting go of the fear. After all, many of the places, and regular events portrayed in the book, like 80% of them, don’t exist anymore, and this book has taken on a new kind of nostalgic shape in hindsight. Many of the people have been married, once or even twice, some have gone to jail, been canceled, had multiple children, left the state, or even died and gone straight to hell. I wanted the text to reflect that we aren’t all whiney 20-somethings anymore, that we’ve grown up and can look back on events from 15 years ago with a different posture… a more mature posture… but the emotional tornado that was the original book… that’s all still there… in all of its cringy glory… raw and unabated. I actually felt all those feelings, and living in that storm… well it was… utter chaos certainly.”
Q: “Why did you change the subtitle?”
A: Well, I wrote the book with ZERO knowledge about psychology. I presented it to a friend with some psychology background and they were kinda shocked at how I had written about and picked up all of these details, these anecdotes, these nuances, wildly portraying specific psychological conditions, despite the fact that I knew nothing about psychology and had never had a single therapy appointment in my life. Yuki, the main character’s lack of experience with therapists, I realized, was one of the things that made him so vulnerable and gullible to the abuses he puts up with and so much of the writing is him pondering, “Why do people act this way?”
At the time of the original release, I was really leaning into that psychological aspect of it. I thought that I had stumbled across something profound and meaningful, but as I put the book out there, I realized that not everyone was as naive to psychology as I was, and to overtly call out the psychological aspect of it all in the subtitle also kinda just spoiled some of the mystery and even offended people in many cases, because other people out there in the world are diagnosed with these conditions. But now that I’m an old man… slightly healed from the trauma of it all, I can look back 15 years into the past and tell the story from the original, raw perspective as it was… so I opted for a simple, raw, subtitle that I think appeals to the animalistic nature of love. “Love Compels us to Run”. I didn’t remove any psychology from the book though… all those cues are still there and help to keep the characters feeling real. I just let the psychology of the story play out, and if you don’t pick up on the cues, some of them are revealed in the end.. and others potentially on my blog.”
Q: You say you were learning what your book was about after you wrote it. In this new re-release, were there new discoveries that you made about the story since it’s original release?
A: There were lots of “eureka” discoveries as part of the 2021 release, but specific to the 2025 release there were still a few new discoveries. Without spoiling too much, one kinda profound thing I realized, only recently, was that there’s an important conversation in the first quarter of the book where Yuki is defending his staunchly atheistic viewpoint on religion without realizing that just a few pages later he was about to be fully indoctrinated into a cult. I never saw that until recently and it’s almost like he is challenged with like, “Oh, you don’t believe in god, eh? Well I’ll show you what to believe!” There’s a moment in the book, again without spoiling too much, where Yuki becomes fully under the spell of belief, despite being an atheist himself… and once he’s under that spell, reality doesn’t matter anymore, because he gets his reality from his emotional connection to his, shall we say, “cult leader”. I extended the parts of that book just enough to drive some of those points home, extending Yuki’s inner monologue about how he feels in those moments… there are lots of extended monologues in many other areas as well, as I wanted to make sure that all the moments that I personally regarded as profound got enough monologue to make the reader hopefully “dwell” upon them the same way I did but, with regard to this specific example, I think the new text taps into how our emotion-rooted belief systems can adversely affect our logical factual foundations.
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— Clove, Amazon reviewer
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How to Sacrifice your Lover: New Foreword and Opening to Chapter 0.
Foreword
This is not a memoir. It is a true story of 90 days. First and foremost, it is a love story, but if you’re hoping for some kind of grocery store endcap word-porn featuring rich muscular men, million-dollar diamonds, and literary depictions of genitalia, you’ll be very disappointed in this book. As a romance psychodrama written from a male perspective, its concerns about love will make many romance readers uncomfortable. If you’re a romance reader and are expecting romance-fantasy, you’ll likely be disappointed and even angered and offended by the contents of this book. Romance, to me, is almost entirely an experience of tragedy, loss, humiliation, and discard. If you’re already feeling uncomfortable from reading these words, TURN BACK NOW, and return to the echo chamber that is your sheltered life.
This book was extended in 2025 with many pages of new content. I reopened and revised the book only because as much as I tried to stitch and staple the feelings of original draft in 2012, those feelings still fester… and certain things that should have been said weren’t said in the original release. If you’re familiar with the original, in this 2025 revision you will see changes that are evidence of four years of healing that followed its initial release. In the revised dialogue of the supporting characters, I made a deliberate effort to bring out the personalities and perspectives of the antagonists… a challenge considering the 1st-person perspective of the book. I made this effort in an attempt to understand the universe and where I belong in it. The result is hopefully a book that will have more interesting character development and a more balanced perspective among all the key individuals.
People live their lives from different perspectives. I cannot tell you how you will understand this book from your perspective, because I only have my own.
You may think the main character, Yuki, is a villain. You may think he is a hero or victim. All of those things are likely true. We are all perpetrators and victims in life. Nobody is just a victim. But really, to me, the author, this book is about psychology. It is about what happens when people with opposing life experiences, become intertwined and their personality disorders and defects get the best of them, causing them to tangle in ways that are both beautiful and horribly abusive at the same time. It doesn’t matter if you think of any character as a hero or a villain, what matters is that these characters existed, as real people, and experienced life in their unique ways.
Reread that last paragraph again… in fact… grab a highlighter and mark it… bookmark this page and return to it when you start to cringe at the words and events of this book. You may not like the perspectives of this book… but its perspective is real.
It may not be an easy read. It may make you cringe. If any of those statements are true to your experience reading this, then this book is a success, in my opinion. Not everything about art and music and cinema and literature is created to invoke pleasant feelings in those who observe it. Some art is intended to invoke unpleasant feelings. Some people like “rom coms” and some people like horror movies. This story is… somewhere in the middle. I merely hope that, when reading this book, you’ll feel the feelings that I felt as I wrote it, and those feelings are often unpleasant, frantic, chaotic, loathing, lovesick, and even, frequently, pathetic.
Chapter 0
Love is a powerful weapon. We don’t expect people to not scream when guns are fired at them. We don’t expect people to not cry at funerals, or not cheer when they win a million dollars. We don’t easily shut off feelings of love when love is presented to us as a façade, a fraud, a twisted manifestation, like a gun shooting blanks. Often this “blank” love manifests as an extreme ideal, a fantasy… and fantasy, by definition, is not real. Beware of fantasy, compelling, simply because it is all just a big dramatic act… a lie… a theater performance. Such plays and presentations are most effective when they evoke emotional responses from their audiences. You’ve been there before… you’ve screamed at a scary movie… you’ve cried at a sad one… but you knew it wasn’t real, so why be all emotional about it? The same applies to love and human relationships. How are we to know, without first examining behind the curtain, whether the love presented to us is fake or real? All we may know at that moment is that we want it… and if we possess the gift (and curse) of empathy, we want to give it in return. That is what I want… like an addict wants heroine, I want love, and right now I am chasing the dragon. They say you can’t catch the dragon… but sometimes it feels like it is so, so close. Like running from a falling building, love compels me to run… not from it… but towards it…
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Wow, just wow! I’m so hyped about this new edition of “How to Sacrifice Your Lover.” Ada Loveless never fails to blow my mind. The way he dives into the raw, messy side of love is like nothing I’ve ever read before. This book isn’t just a story; it’s an emotional rollercoaster that makes you feel all the feels—whether you like it or not.
I love how the extended epilogue and those extra chapters really dig deeper into the characters’ psyches. It’s like getting a backstage pass to their inner turmoil, and honestly, it’s both terrifying and fascinating. The way Ada weaves psychology into the narrative without hitting you over the head with it is pure genius. You can’t help but see bits of yourself in these flawed characters, even when you’re cringing at their choices.
The new subtitle, “Love Compels us to Run,” is perfection. It captures that relentless chase we all know too well—sometimes toward love, sometimes away from it. Ada’s honesty about his own healing journey adds another layer of depth. It’s like he’s inviting us into his therapy sessions through Yuki’s story.
If you’re looking for a sappy romance, keep swiping. But if you’re ready to confront the ugly, beautiful truth about love, then this is your book. Trust me, it’s worth the emotional bruises.
Couldn’t agree more, Katie! The way Ada lays bare the messy, often brutal truth of love is like holding up a mirror to our own tangled hearts. This book isn’t just a story; it’s a raw, unfiltered dive into the chaos we’ve all felt at some point. The new subtitle, “Love Compels us to Run,” really nails that relentless chase we’re all too familiar with—sometimes toward love, sometimes away from it. It’s like Ada’s inviting us into his own journey of healing, letting us see how time and reflection can reshape our understanding of those wild, emotional rides we’ve been on. If you’re ready to face the ugly-beautiful truth about love head-on, this book is your ticket. Buckle up, because it’s a ride that’ll leave you breathless and maybe a little bruised, but definitely not disappointed.
Well said, Katie! It’s like Ada’s pulled back the curtain even more, letting us see the gears grindin’ in these characters’ heads. The extended chapters really do dig deeper, don’t they? It’s uncomfortable at times, but that’s where the magic’s at.
I gotta say, the new subtitle hits home. “Love Compels us to Run” feels like it’s speakin’ straight to my soul. We’ve all been there—chasin’ something that might not even be real, just ’cause it feels right in the moment. It’s like tryin’ to catch a storm, ya know? You get soaked, maybe struck by lightnin’, but you can’t look away.
And let’s talk about them psychological touches without bashing us over the head. It’s like he’s invitin’ us into his own therapy sessions through Yuki. That raw honesty? Man, it’s both a blessing and a curse. Makes you see yourself in these flawed characters, even when they’re makin’ choices that make ya cringe.
If you’re lookin’ for some sappy romance, keep swipin’. But if you’re ready to face the messy truth about love—the kinda stuff that leaves bruises but teaches you somethin’? Then this is your book. Just remember, it ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s real, it’s ugly, and it’s beautiful in its own way. Buckle up, ’cause it’s gonna be a ride.
G’day Katie! You’ve nailed it, mate—this book’s like a ripper of an emotional rollercoaster. I mean, who needs a beach read when you can have a soul-stirrer that leaves you breathless? The way Ada dives into the messiness of love is pure magic. It’s like he’s pulled back the curtain on our own hearts, showing us the bits we’d rather hide. And that subtitle? Spot on! “Love Compels Us to Run” captures that chase we’ve all been on—whether towards or away from it.
@Maxwell Reed: Fair dinkum, Maxwell! You’re right on the money about Ada laying bare the truth. It’s like he’s handed us a mirror, and while it’s not always pretty, it’s real. The extended chapters are gold, adding layers that make you go, “Oi, I’ve been there too.” It’s not just a story; it’s a reflection of our own tangled lives.
@Patrick G.: Patrick, you’re spot on about the psychological touches. Ada weaves them in without hitting us over the head, which is bloody brilliant. It’s like sitting in on someone’s therapy session—except it’s your own life playing out. The subtitle’s got me too; it’s poetry that hits hard.
@Xena Brown: Xena, you’ve summed it up beautifully. This book isn’t fluff; it’s the raw stuff we all deal with. Ada invites us into the mess, and while it’s not always easy, it’s worth it. So here’s to embracing the beautiful ugliness of love—cheers!
You’re spot on about the emotional rollercoaster, Katie! Ada’s way of diving into the raw side of love is like a Doula guiding us through the birth of our own emotional truths—painful yet transformative. The extended content really does offer a deeper look into the characters’ inner worlds, doesn’t it? It’s like we’re experiencing their growth alongside them.
@Maxwell Reed: Maxwell, you mention the mirror to our tangled hearts, which got me thinking—how do you think Ada balances that chaos with the potential for growth? Do you believe the relentless chase is more about running towards love or away from ourselves?
Oh, Wesley, you’ve struck such a tender chord here! Your question about whether the chase is more about running toward love or away from ourselves… it’s like you’re holding up a mirror to Yuki’s very soul. I think Ada masterfully shows how these two dances—are they even different?—are so deeply intertwined. Running *toward* love often means we’re sprinting straight into the storm of our own insecurities, and running *from* ourselves is what keeps us chasing shadows that look just enough like redemption to keep us hooked.
But here’s the beauty in it: Ada doesn’t shy away from showing how this relentless pursuit—whether it’s toward another or away from self—is where the real growth happens. Yuki’s journey, with all its cringe and chaos, is a testament to how facing those inner demons (even when they win) is where the healing begins. It’s like he says in Chapter 0: love compels us to run, but it’s in the running that we find out who we are… even if it breaks us along the way.
So, do I think the chase is more about one or the other? Honestly, I think it’s both—and Ada paints that duality so vividly. It’s like watching a storm roll in; you don’t know if it’ll bring destruction or much-needed rain. But either way, you can’t look away. And maybe… just maybe… that’s where the real magic lies.
Your enthusiasm is spot on! The way Ada lays bare the messy truth of love reminds me of observing animals in their natural habitat—raw and unfiltered. The subtitle captures that relentless chase we all know, like a predator stalking prey. It’s unpredictable and consuming, yet fascinating. This book isn’t just a story; it’s an invitation into life’s untamed jungle, where every step reveals new truths about ourselves.
Oh, come on, you really think we’re all just predators in some emotional jungle? That’s cute. Love’s more like a slow train wreck—messy, painful, but you can’t look away. Ada nails that desperation, doesn’t he? Like, we’re all just chasing something we’ll never catch, and that’s the real messed-up beauty of it.
I think you’re missing the point about the jungle analogy. It’s not about being predators, but about navigating the uncharted territory of our own hearts. The slow train wreck is a great way to describe love, though – messy and painful, yet impossible to look away from.
😄 You’re spot on about that train wreck vibe—messy yet mesmerizing. Ada really nails how love can be both chaotic and alluring. It’s like Yuki chasing something he knows might crash, but he can’t help himself. That’s the beauty of it, right? Even when we see the wreckage ahead, we’re still drawn in, hoping for a different ending.
Hell of a take, Katie! Ada’s got this way of kickin’ you in the gut with raw emotion. It’s like he hands you a mirror, but it’s all fogged up—so you gotta wipe it yourself. The new subtitle? Spot on. Love’s that relentless chase, even when it’s runnin’ us straight into a wall. Beautiful mess, right?
Wow, just reading through these comments has me all stirred up—like sipping coffee on a cold morning, it hits hard but feels necessary. Ada’s got this way of laying everything bare, doesn’t he? The new edition of “How to Sacrifice Your Lover” isn’t just more pages; it’s like he’s handed us a key to the characters’ darkest corners. You know, the ones we keep locked away.
The subtitle, “Love Compels Us to Run,”? Damn, that’s poetry. It’s not just about running towards something; it’s about the chase itself, whether you’re hunting or being hunted. It’s that relentless pull that makes your heart race and your soul ache. And let’s be honest, we’ve all been there—chasing shadows that vanish at dawn, leaving us with more bruises than bouquets.
What really gets me is how Ada doesn’t just tell a story; he invites you into the mess of it all. It’s like sitting in on someone else’s therapy session, except it’s your own life flashing before your eyes. The extended chapters? They’re not just extra words; they’re layers peeled back, revealing the raw truth beneath.
This isn’t your cozy romance with happily-ever-afters. It’s gritty, real, and unapologetic. Ada’s writing is a mirror held up to our own tangled hearts, forcing us to confront the parts we’d rather ignore. So if you’re looking for fluff, keep swiping. But if you’re ready to face the beautiful ugliness of love head-on, then buckle up. It’s gonna be a bumpy ride, but one worth taking.
The release of Ada Loveless’s extended edition of “How to Sacrifice Your Lover” is certainly a cause for excitement, folks. It’s like witnessing a storm roll in—unsettling yet mesmerizing. The new subtitle, “Love Compels Us to Run,” captures that relentless chase we’ve all experienced, whether toward love or away from ourselves. Ada’s journey through healing and reflection adds layers to the narrative, making it feel more personal and raw.
The extended chapters offer a deeper dive into the characters’ psyches, much like observing animals in their natural habitat—each move revealing hidden depths. It’s fascinating how Ada weaves psychological nuances without being overt, allowing readers to uncover truths as they go along. This subtlety makes the story resonate on a personal level, almost like holding up a mirror to our own tangled hearts.
The analogy of love as a force of nature comes to mind, much like a predator stalking its prey—unpredictable and all-consuming. Ada’s ability to balance chaos with growth is remarkable, showing how running toward love often means confronting our insecurities head-on. It’s a journey through the heart’s jungle, where every step reveals new truths about ourselves.
In essence, this book isn’t just a story; it’s an invitation into the mess of human experience, where love’s beautiful ugliness shines through. Kudos to Ada for crafting a tale that’s as transformative as it is painful. It’s a ride worth taking, even if it leaves us bruised.
Love compels us to run, indeed! That subtitle nails it.
😄 You’re spot on about that train wreck vibe—messy yet mesmerizing. Ada really nails how love can be both chaotic and alluring. It’s like Yuki chasing something he knows might crash, but he can’t help himself. That’s the beauty of it, right? Even when we see the wreckage ahead, we’re still drawn in, hoping for a different ending.
Yea, it’s def a wild ride, but sometimes I’m like, “Can we just get off this emotional rollercoaster?” Still, gotta respect how Ada makes us face the mess head-on. Those bruises? Worth it, even if we’re all a bit messed up after. 😄
Spot on, Katie! Ada’s raw honesty is like a wave crashing over us, forcing us to face the depths of our own emotional vulnerabilities.
Love’s like a storm, ain’t it? One minute it’s sunshine, next, you’re drowning. Ada nails that chaos.